Have you been uprooted? Do you FEEL uprooted? Are the feelings of loss, loneliness, limbo and longing all too familiar?
You're not alone. Many people around the world who move or lose home or stability all experience uprooting.
Sometimes that uprooting is perceived as a positive event. Other times, it is traumatic. Some people are uprooted over and over until they feel they have no "roots" left.
Being uprooted leaves a mark on us, sometimes for years. Even those who were glad about the change may experience grief, anxiety, cultural stress, identity questions, isolation, anger, or shame.
Because of the way we humans are wired, we may not associate current problems with past events - especially distant past events. It's easy to blame current circumstances and never get to the root (pun intended!) of why it's hard to maintain healthy relationships, hard to settle, hard to rise above that underlying dissatisfaction or restlessness and live full lives.
While it's true that not all problems are rooted in past pain, if you find yourself fighting in vain for change, it's worth taking a look to see if there are any connections.
Whether your pain is past or present, you are not destined to live with silent sadness. The trauma that envelops you does not define you. Perhaps you didn't choose what happened to you, but you can choose how you will respond today.
Facing grief, loss, or anger takes courage. But it is as we face our losses - visible and hidden - that we can find comfort, context, and calm.
What have you lost? What are your past losses robbing you of today?
"When we are no longer able to change a situation -
we are challenged to change ourselves."
- Viktor Frankl
Can you relate? What is your story? Is it time for you to thrive again? If so, please reach out. You may find individual sessions or safe process groups with other "uprooteds" to be helpful. I am currently offering a free 15-minute online consultation session.